Saturday, October 8, 2011
So, What's Up With This SEX Thang, Anyway???
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Having been told by at least five people of both sexes in the last two days that "(I) CAN'T be gay," (and thinking that most of the straight-identified men in Wilmington can't be straight, I figure this might be the time to pontificate on sex.
My favorite minister of all time, Dr. J. Kennedy Schultz, who founded the Atlanta Church of Religious Science (now Spiritual Living Center of Atlanta) about 1979, and was President of Religious Science International for eight years (now re-united with United Church of Religious Science), probably said it best about how to live one's sex life: "Never go out on a Saturday night just to get laid; always go out to GIVE laid."
Kennedy gave what he called "church-flushing" talks about three times a year. The message of Religious Science is very positive and upbeat and among those who are ready to actually practice it, it tends to attract a lot of spiritually lazy people who think that listening and thinking positive thoughts are all that is needed for a better life -- and worse, that immaturity should be tolerated by those who are serious seekers (and this happens due to caring people having a tolerance for a lot of non-sense).
But to flush all the fools out, Ken periodically talked turth about one of his favortie subjects: God, Sex, or Money. HA!
Of course living in Wilmington, NC, if one goes out downtown on a weekend night to observe or participate in the local heterosexual mating rituals, one sees little but a game played by Pigs n' Sluts -- fueled by huge quantities of alcohol and illegal and prescription drugs. Battalions of Police and Sheriff's Deputies are required to keep violence from breaking out on a large scale. The guys brag about "loving them some pussy" and getting a woman to "squirt." Who knows what the women talk about (I'm not privey to it), but you sure can bet they expect a fella to spend a lot of money on them and if he ain't got gobs of it, well, he might luck out in the late, desperate hour, but come morning that gal's GONE!!!
Don't get me wrong. The gay rituals can be dicey as well. Between the "woe is me, a poor discriminated-against gay person" baggage and the dominance of club ownership and management by drug Mafia (a tradition going back to when gay clubs were shut down routinely by police and Mafia moved in to protect them with payola to police and politicians).
I always found it a great comfort to attend First Presbyterian on Sunday mornings after witnessing all the drug-besotted madness. You don't see that many gay folks there, but the straight ones with their families remind you that not all heterosexuality is mental illness -- and MUCH of it is healthy and sacred.
Our closest animal relatives, the bonobo chimpansees, greet each other of both sexes and all ages with genital stimulation -- like we greet each other with handshakes and fist-bumps. Now, doesn't that sound like more fun?
OK, NO, we do not emulate Catholic Clergy and Leadership (the bad ones), and sexually stimulate our young people. We could definitely stand to stimulate our older people more, however! We are generally wretched agists -- especially men.
As any gay man who has ever gone to Mexico knows, the first thing you will be told upon arriving in Mexico is that ALL Mexican men (generally meaning those descended from the native peoples) are available for sex with other men, although some require payment. Generally, you will be able to prove this is true. Hell, it's true on the streets of Wilmington, NC!!!
Can black and white men be so different from brown (includes red and yellow)? Well, black men are fairly easy to seduce, but WHITE MEN can get violent -- so beware!!! And women are wired differently and feel threatened despite the fact that men get other validation from men than they do from women. Women who are spiritually un-evolved can get desperate, vindictive, violent, and worse. (The same can be said for spiritually un-evolved men, who can usually be seduced under the influence of less than a complete six-pack -- or for those who prefer drugs, the old saw "cocaine makes ya queer" proves often to be most true.)
The truth about men (I don't pretend to be or be able to speak for women -- they can speak for themselves), is that we are all or nearly all somewhere along the gay to stright continuum, with most of us near the middle. THAT DOES NOT MEAN ANYONE HAS TO HAVE GAY SEX OR STRAIGHT SEX. Choose your own lifestyle to enjoy your God-given sexual orientation.
It's that simple!!! It's OK to be mostly gay-oriented and choose to have a monogamous heterosexual marriage and raise a family. It's NOBODY'S business but you and your partner's or partners'. That's right: make whatever arrangement works for you, BUT always be honest with those you make agreements with.
Bottom Line: Everybody gets to create a life they find loving and fulfilling. Just be sure you have sex responsibly and raise your children lovingly. If you want to have sex with animals (two or four or more legged), be sure to get written permission first to avoid legal difficulties.